November/December's Question and Answer
Happy Nappy wrote:
My mate is not very sexually active with since I moved in. He is an Aqaurius, I am an Aries. I would love if we could have sex more often, like everyday. But now he is more likely to engage, only once a month or so. What should I do to make him more active again like it used to be? Spells may help!
Dear Happy Nappy:
As you have a Grand Trine with Venus, Mars, and Pluto, it is clear that you do need sex more than once a month! However, you also have quite a few elements of aggression and a great need for close emotional intimacy that could make many of your partners uneasy, particularly the Air signs...especially Aquarius. Although you are an Aries, you are 'just over the hump,' meaning you were a cusp baby. You will express yourself as a Pisces quite a bit, as you have three planets in Pisces and Neptune rising.
You didn't provide your lover's birth information, so I can't look at the situation from his end, but I suspect he is spending a great deal of his time fantasizing in his mind and/or working. Aquarians in general are quite mental and can go for a bit without having sex...this doesn't mean he isn't thinking about it! My suggestion is to strive to be patient and gentle with him and to work on pleasing yourself when he isn't interested. You can try a spell or two to heighten the senses and increase the likelihood of him engaging more often, but if he is dead set against it or simply not interested, then you will have a tough time no matter what you do.
You probably talk about sex and maybe even try to coerce him into bed often...this will only back fire. Aquarians are the most stubborn sign (in my opinion). Others can talk about Taurus all they want, but as the mother of a Taurus AND an Aquarius...well... Aquarians will do what they want, when they want, and how they want. To get him in to bed more often, you will have to let him think it is his idea--not yours. So, make sure you are looking and feeling your best--pay attention to yourself and work on pleasing yourself. Don't bring the subject up or tease him (Aquarians cannot stand to be teased!), but be sure to send out non-verbal sexual vibes. He will soon be wondering why you aren't after him so much, and this may help pique his interest!
Many Blessings!
Venuskitty |